There are times when you may be faced with challenging situations, challenging people or simply have come to a cross road and really aren’t sure which direction to go in. Have faith in what you know to be the truth, have faith in knowing who you are and have faith that if the path you choose is not quire right, you can always change direction.
Many many many many years ago, I chose a path that allowed me to rid negative people from my life that were not healthy for me. A decision I did not make easily but a decision I knew in my heart, was one I needed to make.
At times I did waver and think I had chosen the wrong path. I would find myself taking a few steps back and would straddle both roads at times……………but in the end, the original road I took was subsequently the right one. More recently, I got the validation that I wasn’t so necessarily looking for but got nonetheless, that the path I chose, was the right path.
As a child, I always knew there was a healthier alternative in life over and above what my experiences were. I never knew exactly what it was or where it was, what it looked like or how to get it.
I just knew there was something else and I knew the moment I would find it, I would feel it.
Life throws us curve balls and it’s our attitude and ability to learn from those experiences that shape us in to who we become. DNA is just a small part in who we are, the rest is nurture, experience, relationships and so much more.
“Don’t Let Anyones Ignorance, Hate, Drama or Negativity Stop You From Being The Best Person You Can Be.”
If you can still be strong and stoic when all around you is seemingly falling apart, your strength and resolve will shine through and will validate to you, who you truly are as a person. It really doesn’t matter who you are or what you have done or not done, you will always come across people with variations of ignorance, hating, dramatics and negativity. It’s how you deal with them that will truly show your character and not enabling them to bring your mood down, is a must.
Me? I’m someone that can take poking and prodding and poking and prodding for months if not years and then it may well be slightest of things that will allow me to erupt. Kind of volcanic. Some say this is healthy, others may not. At least I don’t flip flop with mood swings every other day or week. People know where they stand with me. I wear my heart on my sleeve and call a spade a spade.
What I will say is that my eruption if that’s what we want to call it for now, will be swift and I move on and that’s me for a few years if not more. It’s out the system and no longer consuming. I’m only human!
A lot of people fail to know the meaning of ignorance. It means “lack of knowledge”. You will come to find that there are a lot of people that are ignorant in the world but don’t let what others think or feel get to you and don’t let it effect the way you think and believe.
You know what sounds right and what doesn’t. Stick to that and the ignorance of others won’t affect your daily life. Learn to tune these people out, and keep it moving.
You may well come across people in your life who can only be described as haters, I guess. These are people who really dislike themselves for who they are not or what they have been unable to achieve. They are good at transferring their negative energy on to other people because they wish they can be just like someone else.
Just remember if you have haters in your life, you may well have done something that they wish they had wanted. Let people hate because they are going to hate you regardless if you’re doing good or bad. Surrounding yourself with people who are happy, positivie, vibrant and accepting of your success will only enhance your life. These kinds of people will likely be succesful themselves also.
People who create drama like the excitement of others being in distress. Don’t let yourself become involved with people like this. Not only are they always involved in drama but they will start to involve you! You want people in your life who will not only keep down your stress level but who want to create and keep a positive surrounding for you both.
Negativity ~ this all the above put together. Negative people are not only ignorant about life but they hate others who are positive and happy and those who are severe in this realm will do what they can to create negativity and hurt in others. Extreme measures of this can be very damaging and painful to experience.
It’s important not to allow these kinds of people affect you. Staying positive will be a crucial ingredient in your resolve to continue being you. Stay positive no matter the situation and you’ll notice a better outcome. Sometimes life won’t always go the way you want it to and ignorant people will bother you, and haters will continue hating. That’s life though.
Often, we can’t simply remove ourselves from toxic relationships—maybe it’s a colleague, an in-law, or a parent. When the folks in our lives weigh us down and drain our energy, it can become a daily challenge to stay positive.
Below are 5 ways to remain positive around negative people we cannot avoid or don’t want to remove from our lives.
It’s Not Always About You
Many times when people are dealing with difficulties in their lives, those around them become the targets of their unhealthy coping strategies. Their behaviors manifest out of insecurities, fears, and anger. The most important thing you can remember is that this is about them, not you, and therefore don’t take it personally.
Make a gratitude list, let people know how thankful you are for their presence, and count your blessings for the small things. Put good energy out into the world in return for all you have been given. Gratitude can go a long way in reminding us that life involves more than our immediate surroundings and expands beyond our everyday.
Don’t Judge Others
We all have to learn different lessons in life. Everyone has a journey and path to follow and we must never stand in judgment of others. Perhaps this person has come into your life for a reason. At the same time, this person has to come to their own realizations on their own time. Many call this karma. However you view it, when we adopt a broader view, we’re able to get out of our limited thinking.
View a hurdle as an opportunity and not a challenge.
Changing our mindsets can transform our attitudes. Slightly altering your perception can also help you imagine what the other person might be experiencing. You may want to ask yourself, What is happening in this person’s life that is making them behave this way? We all go through periods of self-doubt and uncertainty. Considering it’s difficult to stay positive right after a disappointment or a crisis, it’s ideal to cultivate healthy habits while we’re feeling good about ourselves. We can take this opportunity to reflect on how we would be affected if we found ourselves in similar circumstances.
Take some ME Time.
Make time to pursue a hobby, journal, take a walk, or meditate. Giving ourselves time to think can create wonders on our psyches and overall attitudes. Many people underestimate the importance of being alone with our thoughts. Even if you spend the beginning of that time being angry toward this person, it is a necessary step towards shifting your thinking, so that you can return to positivity. When you allow time to process, you give yourself the opportunity to come up with insights and solutions. Meditation can be a way to gain clarity and develop positive mindfulness.
Don’t ever let someone else’s attitude or actions keep you from being just who you are. Never change who you are. Stay true to who God made you and stay positive, keeping your chest back and head up high. Learn from there negative actions to better who you are and to be the best you can be. Remember that even the best people in life have people trying to bring them down, that is what has made them great. Just look at the recent Presidential race………
Laughter is key also. The best thing I hear in my little boy, is that bottom of the gut belly laugh. Remember to tell those that matter, that you love them. Life is precious and starts innocently and positively. Stay Positive, Limit Negativity and strive to be the best you can be.
Until next time.
Live simply, love generously, care deeply, speak kindly and leave the rest to God